“I have set myself a goal to read more about becoming a better salesperson,” said Tom, a salesman for a car dealership. “I want to read at least one book a month. The only thing is I sometimes miss a day here and there for one reason or another.”

For you to create a new habit and to follow through with your goal, you have to resist temptation. Refrain from watching a programme on TV, keep away from socialising with friends – at least until your objective for the day has been met.

Should you fall prey to persuasion, it is not the end of the world. The thing is, though, you have side-stepped your daily goal, and once you have done that the likelihood of you doing it again increases.

By not sticking to your daily objective you will find that you are not fully committing yourself to your goal. Avoid going astray and stay focused on your goal. Remain committed and do not give in to temptation.

If you find you are not committing yourself to the goal you set, go back to the drawing board and be true to yourself. Maybe your goal was unrealistic to start off with, or perhaps your belief in that goal was not strong enough.

Resist temptation by focusing on the benefits you will gain from your goal, and imagine how your life will change for the better. Realise the power of purpose behind your goal.

Avert from being lured away from your goal.

What do you do regularly that doesn’t support you when pursuing your daily objective?

Hani Al-Qasem and Natalie Dee are the co-authors of the e-book “Self-Confidence Building in 7 Steps.”

For more information on how to have self-confidence to lead a more fulfilling life, be sure to read the free ebook Self-Confidence Building In 7 Steps and achieve all that you want.

The one component in life that you can have control of is time.

Time is the most valuable element that you can have. When used wisely and managed effectively, you can use it to your full advantage to realise your goals and achieve the success that you desire.

“When the time is right, I will venture out and see what it has for me,” exclaimed a client a few years ago.

Many people, as in the example above, take time for granted, rather than making use of it to their advantage or benefit. If you were to look at time from another perspective – by seeing the outcome of your goal first – you will be in a much stronger position to direct your life by managing your present time which will gradually carry you forward.

Find out what you want out of life or from a certain area in your life, then set a goal that is relevant to that desire, then make time every day to move towards that goal.

Manage your time effectively and productively. Allow it to be your close ally to realise your desires and live your dream life.

If you don’t plan your time for the future, when will you?

Hani Al-Qasem and Natalie Dee are the co-authors of the e-book “Self-Confidence Building in 7 Steps.”

For more information on how to have self-confidence to lead a more fulfilling life, be sure to read the free ebook Self-Confidence Building In 7 Steps and achieve all that you want.

I once had a young client who wanted a head start in life. He attended three seminars and was on a ‘high’ for a few weeks only to return to his normal mindset. He was upset by it all and couldn’t understand why the benefits didn’t last.

I informed my client that to attain long-term change you must first look at your self image; how you see and feel about yourself.

“If you see yourself as an unconfident person, and you walk around with your head down, having negative thoughts about yourself, then that becomes your self image. The seminars won’t change that,” I explained.

You cannot influence a long lasting change of confidence if you continually go against it by physically and psychologically reinforcing the feeling of non-confidence.

“Short gains come and go,” as you have found out, I added. “For you to sustain long term change your self image has to be in line with your objective of being confident.”

“So I have to change my self image?” he asked.

“Yes.”

Inject some fuel to your desire of becoming confident by standing up straight, head up, shoulders back and chest out. Accept and approve of yourself as a person with confidence by having the thoughts of just that. Repeat positive and complimenting thoughts about yourself to yourself.

In a short while, your self image, self esteem, will gradually increase.

Think about this for a minute: How often do you say positive and encouraging things about yourself to yourself?

Hani Al-Qasem and Natalie Dee are the co-authors of the e-book “Self-Confidence Building in 7 Steps.”

For more information on how to have self-confidence to lead a more fulfilling life, be sure to read the free ebook Self-Confidence Building In 7 Steps and achieve all that you want.

It was a hot summer’s day as my client and I unfolded a colourful blanket and laid it on the grass in a nearby park; our venue for the day.

“I always seem to get started on a project feeling all excited and raring to go, only to lose interest halfway through, if not sooner,” my client said agitatedly once we settled down and had a sip of water.

“Are you working on a project now?” I asked and she nodded. “Does the idea of that project excite you or does it annoy you?” I continued.

“It excites me a lot. It could mean a promotion for me,” she said, “one that I’ve wanted for ages. Yet I can’t seem to get myself right into the project.”

A good and effective method to get yourself back on track is to look at your project, or desire, from another perspective. Begin with the end in mind and work back from that outcome. Reverse your thoughts and pretend you were promoted, and picture yourself deeply enjoying the feelings of your success and achievement.

“This way you can regain and retain your enthusiasm and motivation to focus on what you could do, as in this case, you can complete your project,” I clarified. “You will face less resistance or procrastination because you emotionally reminded yourself what this promotion means to you, so you will be more determined and enthusiastic to achieve it.”

Regain and retain your motivation by beginning with the end in mind.

Hani Al-Qasem and Natalie Dee are the co-authors of the e-book “Self-Confidence Building in 7 Steps.”

For more information on how to have self-confidence to lead a more fulfilling life, be sure to read the free ebook Self-Confidence Building In 7 Steps and achieve all that you want.

“I have a great job, but I just can’t seem to get on with my manager,” a young client, in her mid-twenties, finally opened up. “I love the job and the people. It’s just him. He makes me cringe. I can’t stand him.”

Did you notice how many times she said ‘can’t’?

The word ‘can’t’ is a small four letter word. Many people have been using it most of their lives without consciously knowing how this small word can deeply and negatively affect their unconscious mind. They do not realise the actual implication and consequence this petty word can have on the quality of their lives.

This seemingly small and insignificant word can, in fact, have a huge impact on people’s lives. It has the power to weaken and reduce self-esteem and confidence. It has the enormous and solid strength to keep people where they are and prevent them from moving ahead in their lives.

Instead of using such a word, replace it with “I choose to…” or perhaps, “I choose not to…” This way you regain positive control over your life because you will consciously make choices along the way.

The client above had a choice that she can make. She can choose to remain employed where she is and learn to accept her manager, or she can resign and search for another job. She had the choice to do either, and it is through that choice that she can improve her life.

As it happened, the lady above chose to think about her manager in a different way by adopting the, “I choose to see (David) from a new perspective as of now.”

We all make daily choices in our lives. Let us choose ones that add value.

If you were to replace “I can’t…” with “I choose…” how much of a difference will that make on how you feel?

Hani Al-Qasem and Natalie Dee are the co-authors of the e-book “Self-Confidence Building in 7 Steps.”

For more information on how to have self-confidence to lead a more fulfilling life, be sure to read the free ebook Self-Confidence Building In 7 Steps and achieve all that you want.