Many of my clients often ask me this question: Were rich and successful people born with self-confidence, or did they have to also work at it?

In other words, were they born with self-assurance, poise and courage, or did they obtain it through repeated practise and determination?

Although we can’t generalise, I tend to find that they became confident by being students of self-confidence; they were exposed to it more than some of us.

Often people who are rich have had role models of confident, ambitious, motivated people in their lives from very early on. And, if they didn’t have it from home, they were drawn to people who were confident from an early age, and mimicked them.

We all mimic people, especially when we’re very young, it’s a human survival mechanism. The more professional term is called finding a ‘role-model’.

These people would also read and listen to anything they could get their hands on relating to self-confidence, motivation, performance, achieving, succeeding and lots more.

The great news here is that you, too, can learn to become totally confident. You can become confident in any area you choose to work on, so long as you have the tools and knowledge at your hands.

You can learn to have and become confident in much the same way that you learned how to drive a car, how to cook, how to sing, how to be good at your job, how to use the computer.

For you to gain self-confidence, start off by believing in yourself, that you can become confident to succeed in anything that you put your mind to. It’s a well known fact that if one person can do it anyone can.

Strengthen your inner self and get your thoughts to gradually gain momentum by making a list of what you would be able to do, have and become once you acquire the confidence that you desire.

Once you have that list, the next step is for you to believe that you can become that confident person, and walk around with the thought and attitude of, “I choose to be confident and my confidence is increasing every day.”

If you wanted to step up and become the confident person you have always wanted to become, would you repeat a certain, powerful phrase or statement to yourself as often as possible?

If your answer is yes, go ahead, right now, repeat this statement 5 – 10 times, preferably out loud:

“I choose to be confident and my confidence is increasing every day.”

Well done!

Hani Al-Qasem and Natalie Dee are the co-authors of the e-book “Self-Confidence Building in 7 Steps.”

Do you want to learn how to have self-confidence to lead a more fulfilling life? Be sure to read the FREE sample of the e-book Self-Confidence Building in 7 Steps and achieve all that you want.

When my client used this phrase the other day, I thought it was so great I asked him if it would be OK to share it in a blog.

Just like many of us, there’s often some not-so-desirable administration work to do. I’m sure you know what I’m talking about.

If we are able to re-package the pain of those tasks into a smaller area of our world, in our minds eye we can reframe it as small, achievable and therefore do-able.

The best part of this is that when we regularly complete those mundane yet necessary tasks, and can ‘tick them off’ our to-do list, we feel better and happier, and generally more confident.

Tell me about those ‘painful’ tasks you’d like to re-package.

Hani Al-Qasem and Natalie Dee are the co-authors of the e-book
“Self-Confidence Building in 7 Steps.”

Do you want to learn how to have the self-confidence to lead a more fulfilling life? Be sure to read the tell-all guide Self-Confidence Building in 7 Steps to rocket your self-confidence and self-esteem to achieve all that you want.

How many times have you noticed that when you really want something and put lots of effort in one direction, something strange happens - you get what you want but from somewhere totally different.

This happens to me so often, I absolutely believe that if you invest lots of energy in one direction, you will get a result. Just be open to the possibility that the result may simply come from somewhere that you never imagined or expected.

My favourite example of this is with getting new clients, we all want new clients at certain times in our business cycle (OK, OK at ALL times in our business cycle!!), and we often rack our brains thinking what should we do differently.

My philosophy is do what you already know how, just do more of it.

Be clear what your goals and intentions are, and remember above all else to keep your eyes and ears open.

Opportunities and business will come to you, just not always from the place you’ve been investing. But who cares where it comes from, as long as it’s what you want and what you need!!

Hani Al-Qasem and Natalie Dee are the co-authors of the e-book
“Self-Confidence Building in 7 Steps.”

Do you want to learn how to have the self-confidence to lead a more fulfilling life? Be sure to read the tell-all guide Self-Confidence Building in 7 Steps to rocket your self-confidence and self-esteem to achieve all that you want.

In a recent coaching session my client was worrying about a move she had just made and the disruption it brought to her life. What with getting used to her new environment, the new people she was dealing with each day and other changes.