I just happened to read this whilst on a train the other day; it got me thinking how many of my clients say they can’t plan today, yet alone tomorrow or the future. When I ask them why, the response is usually, “I can’t get what I want anyway, so I might as well live each day as it is.”
That response comes from a lack of self-confidence. Many people don’t have the self-confidence to make something of their future.
“…and the first thing I should do is stop saying ‘I can’t’ and be confident enough to go for what I want!” Most of my clients interrupt as they remember previous sessions.
Yes, that is so. Let me tell you, self-confidence is one of the greatest worldly goods that you should strive to possess. In some ways, it is, without doubt, the most important skill you can develop.
You see, with confidence, many more things become within your reach. On the other hand, without confidence, even the smallest of challenges seem overwhelming, if not impossible to achieve.
Let me ask you this: how many times have you ‘surprised’ yourself and did things you didn’t think you could do? Probably many, right?
Yet you forget those powerful, confident times and you only seem to remember the unconfident events. In doing so you perceive life as big and scary and you see yourself as weak and fragile.
That’s just an illusion that you have created. The truth is you are bigger than any obstacle or challenge.
How many times have you looked back on a situation and realised that in your mind you made it be bigger than it really was?
Do you see what I mean?
Let me finish off by saying this. You have a certain amount of self-confidence already within you. The trick, though, is to use any challenge that you come across to help you grow and expand on that self-confidence.
Are you willing to greet all challenges as steps that get you closer to the future that you want?
Hani Al-Qasem and Natalie Dee are the co-authors of the e-book “Self-Confidence Building in 7 Steps.”