We’re Confident in our Lack of Confidence
They say there are two concepts that are absolutely certain in our lives: death and taxes. In the UK, we’ved discovered a third: we’re confident in our lack of confidence!
Our society doesn’t encourage confidence; it is confused with arrogance, and is seen as bad form to boast about your successes, to blow your own trumpet. Therefore, you need to find your own way, your own safe place to do this, either with a close friend, mentor, parent, or your own executive coach.
UK society focuses on the negative aspects of our lives, such as crime, wars, theft, murder, rape, etc. We watch this in the news and in programmes like dramas, horror stories, murder mysteries, and other crime and fear-based programmes, as well as reading it or hearing it in newspapers, magazines, radio and on the Internet. In this way, negative thoughts, behavioiurs and emotions are constantly being reinforced. Every sensory system that we have, including auditory, visual and kinaesthetic, is influenced by these messages, in the pictures we see, the words we hear and the emotional reactions we experience.
If the statement “what we focus on, we create” is true, then be aware how much we ‘feed’ our minds with very negative and disempowering images and emotions through the media and other mediums as mentioned above.
Some people choose to avoid watching TV or reading the news, yet this is not a viable solution to many people, since we are surrounded by this all the time. The alternative is to find or create ways to balance this continuous negative input of data. If a positive (+1) and a negative (-1) equals zero (0), neutral, we need a positively reinforcing thought to counter balance every negative thought we experience that infiltrates our brains, both our conscious and unconscious minds (because whether we choose it or not it is influencing our behaviour, our thinking and our actions), and if we take ourselves beyond neutral, if our aim is to feel even better than we do in this moment, to feel even more confident, we can go one step further, we can do this by ‘feeding’ ourselves more of the positive reinforcing images and language then we do of the other negative stuff.
Talking about your ahievements, acknowledging your successes, concentrating and focusing on the those things that do work for you, encourages that part of you that is confident and ultimately successful, to be even more so.
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